This is my latest updated blog after gaining inspiration from the latest Bond series movie "Skyfall". Well I had not watched the movie yet, but knowing the synopsis and watching the trailer in brief gave me a surge of intense feeling about the meaning behind Skyfall. This is just my personal opinion, which does not represent others' view on this title.
I feel that the plot of story inside Skyfall does not restricted in movie per se, in real life such kind of plot does exists, and I believe that at some point of time, not at the present moment, such plot may happen to me as well, of course it won't be Skyfall if happen in my life, I would rather named it as "SongFall", because the actor is James Bond, I am not. I am Song, Magnum Song. James Bond is a secret agent, while Magnum Song is a university student. Hahaha.
"SongFall" is a story of mine which might resemble the plot of story in the movie Skyfall, well if you ask me what plot did I mention, I would not elaborate here. I suggest you can watch the trailer, or synopsis at least if you reluctant to watch the whole movie in order to understand the plot. Basically my impression or insight gained from the title "SkyFall" is a kind of downhill where one rises up again to redeem himself in term of pride, pitfall of life which will cause significant change in one's life.
Thus my own story "SongFall" in my imagination would be in future, or near future, where I might encounter pitfalls of life, aka downhills, in which I have to find a way to react to it. To make it clearer, I am more concerned to discuss about grieving as in my own "SongFall", a story of how Magnum Song react to loss by grieving.
Oh, a disclaimer: this story line is just a kind of imagination, a projection of the blog author in response to issue of grieving and the movie title "SkyFall".
To avoid confusion, it is better to clarify few terms. Grief refers to the feelings that arise when you suffer a loss in your life. Loss refers to a breaking of a bond you’ve formed with a significant person, place, thing, or idea (including beliefs) in your life. Grieving refers to the process of acknowledging the loss, experiencing the grief that the loss produces, and incorporating the loss into the rest of your life.
I remembered that one of psychiatrists that I had his lectures being attended, had mentioned that everyday is a loss, where we lost our yesterday, but at the same time we gain the present, and accompanied by tomorrow which depends upon how one react to the present moment he gained. Therefore everyday indeed grieving process does happens, knowingly or unknowingly by an individual. I agreed and amazed with his thought regarding this issue, well is up to the readers to decide to agree or agree not.
In order to understand grieving, I would suggest 3 actions: acknowledge the loss, experience it and incorporate the loss into the remainder of your life. Well I am not the one saying that, you can find the suggestions in a book called "Grieving for Dummies". The 3 elements will be related to the imaginary hero, Magnum Song in "SongFall"
First, acknowledge the loss. This task can run the gamut from accepting the awful truth of it to finally facing up to its lasting impact on your life. Mr. Magnum learned from the element that he lost his yesterday from the moment he wakes up in the morning of a new day, and he accepts that time flies. Actions done cannot be undone, thus he chooses to let everyday happens as it is to be.
Next, Mr. Magnum learned to experience the grief the loss produces. This task can run the gamut from suffering the wave of emotions it brings up to contemplating its influence on his life. He realized that he lost something for everything he is working for. For instance by opting to watch movie during weekend, he lost few hours of studying or other leisure activities. He experienced a feeling of loss, where he realized that he cannot make both ends meet. Therefore he decided to follow his instinct to guide his decision making throughout his life, as he has to be responsible for every action he takes.
Lastly, Mr. Magnum learned to incorporate the loss into the remainder of his life.This task can run the gamut from simply surviving the grief produced by the loss to fully integrating the loss into his everyday life. He gets to understand the loss is part and parcel of his life, and therefore he is able to grief over every loss he encounters, because he understands that his loss will be accompanied by a gain, where seen immediately or in near future.
In short, "SongFall" illustrates the actor, Magnum Song as a guy who learned to respond to loss in his everyday life by grieving. He will try his best to cope up with any pitfall that he might encounter in future.
